I go back to Sam Ngao today. I would have expected to wake up with the morning dreads, but I didn’t. It was more like minor grumblings mostly about waking up in general. I don’t want to go back to my house or back to work, but I feel a sort of resolve. This is what is happening and it’s ok. I will miss the lack of roosters. I haven’t heard one in Chaing Mai. I will miss the swimming pool. Goodbye Western food. Goodbye air conditioning, I will miss you most of all.
I packed up, went out for breakfast and then went back to the condo to work on lesson plans and watch more bad tv. I caught the end of Minority Report. I like that movie. But then it was paranormal activity investigators on the sci fi channel – boo. I waited in the lobby of the condo for 45 minutes before Pat asked me to get a taxi and come to her. I got a taxi to the other side of town and had lunch with Pat and Dam. Now I am riding back to Sam Ngao with them listening to 60s and 70s American music and watching Pat grab the oh shit handle every time Dam tries to pass another car.
I’m wondering how terrifying my house will be after being locked up for 2 months. Will it be a little dusty? Will the rat and other creatures have found the snacks I left? Will the refrigerator have flooded the kitchen? Will I come home to bug wings inches deep like I did one weekend? Or will it be a total war zone? Tune in tomorrow……or later tonight.
I like this part of Chaing Mai that I’ve been staying in. Of course, I probably like this area because it’s a more expensive place to live so with nicer condos comes nicer restaurants, shops, etc. I’d rather be staying in a hotel than an condo, but it’s a real nice condo.
I found a language school near the condo. The shortest class they offered was 20 hours. I don’t have that much time. My brain would explode if I tried to do that many hours over a few days anyway. I went in and talked to them anyway and asked if I could do private lessons. I signed up for 3 hours Friday and 3 hours yesterday. My teacher was a wonderful, cute, young, energetic lady. She taught me basic sentence structure and gave me good worksheets I can refer to later. That is good because I have forgotten just about everything she taught me. She basically gave me everything I would have learned in the 20 hour class. My brain did not explode, but it was touch and go for a while there. Not much stuck. I think it will come back as I study the worksheets later. We went to lunch together the first day and then the second day I offered to buy her a coffee on break. She took me to her favorite coffee shop and made me order in Thai. Now, I just have to put in the time to practice.
I worked on some stuff for my engineering company. It wasn’t much, but every little bit of income helps. I spent way more on vacation than I made. I hung out in the pool. I hung out in the condo and watched bad American and Thai tv. Thai soap operas are horrible. Their game shows are hysterical. For American tv they had bad cop shows, Grim, a firefighter show, A Minute to Win It, the ScyFi channel and a movie channel.
I got massage almost every day. My fingers hurt. I wonder what’s going on with them. I wonder if I’m getting arthritis, but assume it’s something else. My shoulders are very tight. It feels like my muscles are burning, like a chemical burn, when they work on them. My hamstrings and IT bands are pretty flexible though which has never been something I could say. I got a body scrub one day instead of a massage. Unlike the one in Vietnam, it didn’t hurt. At no time did I think I might be bleeding or might need a trip to the hospital. After, she put on oil. It didn’t feel like massage oil or lotion. It felt like she was turning my skin into silk. Oh, I wish I had asked what she used because it was a marvellous feeling. Now my knee caps are peeling. With all the sun I got over the past two months, no part of my body has peeled except my knee caps. So weird and fascinating.
I went on a few google maps adventures. Some of the restaurants I asked it to lead me to didn’t exist. Some of the routes were impossible. Still, how did we ever do anything before google?
I had a session with my teacher. He thought the hurting fingers might be a diet thing – too much starch. That might explain the burning muscles too. That or I have a rare horrible burning muscle disease. It’s probably diet. Nothing monumental happened in the session, but that’s not unusual for me. It did come out that I’m just not in a place where I have a bunch of emotional processing to do. I’ve worked through so much of that. It seems that now I’m down to Muscle Zero, that what I need to do is rebuild muscle while rebuilding my center. So, how do I rebuild? DSE exercises! In the past I did these exercises regularly and they usually put me into process, helping me work through the stuff that came up. I’m excited to see what the exercises will do now as I try to rebuild my body and energy system. So, I’m ready to go home with a new resolve of doing this conscious movement, finding a way to work out/lift weights, and seeing if I can eat better. The eating better will be hard as I can hear ice cream taunting me from somewhere off in the distance as I write this.
Strange food experiences of the week! I think this will be a regular feature of my blog. I went out for ice cream one afternoon. I found a place that advertised snow ice. It could be ice cream. I couldn’t tell from the pictures. I’m more adventurous with dessert than other foods so let’s see. I ordered the watermelon snow ice. It was gigantic. I couldn’t eat it all, but I tried real hard. The best I could tell is that it was like a snow cone except they used sweetened condensed milk instead of ice. Then they put water melon balls and ice cream on top. And they gave you a red syrup on the side to put on the snow ice. It was a bit much, but I’ll probably forget that in the future and do it again. The other food adventure was one morning I went to get breakfast. I found a couple coffee shops that had coffee and cake. I didn’t want cake for breakfast. I found a place that had bread. By now, I was starving and decided garlic bread for breakfast would have to do. They put syrup on the garlic bread. How on earth is that a good idea? Why can’t there just be food that is savory without having to be sweet too? Not every food has to have every flavour in it. It was edible, but I wouldn’t rush out and try to re-create this food concept. This I won’t forget, but I suspect it will happen again not by choice.
On a similar note I had a weird restaurant experience. I saw a restaurant near my condo and went in. They didn’t have a menu out front so I asked to see a menu. They asked if I wanted whiskey or beer. The place was called a café. I wanted a menu. They gave me a menu and then seven of them stood by my table and watched me look through the menu. This has happened often before where the waiter or waitress stands by the table waiting to take your order while you look through the menu. But it was seven women. I felt like an animal at the zoo. “What will it do next”? I’m not sure what was going on, but I decided I didn’t want to eat there.
I tried Tinder. It’s a dating app, but less intensive than most websites. It’s a weird concept to me. It shows you a picture of someone nearby and you either “like” them or not. If you hit the X or swipe to the left they go away forever. If you hit the heart or swipe right they go into your likes category. You don’t get to see the next picture until you’ve decided on the first. If you like them and they like you then you can send messages. There can be few photos and a short description you can look at. It tells you their age too. It only shows people that are physically nearby you. You decide what radius to look at. I messaged two guys, but didn’t meet up with anyone. I don’t think I like this app, but I am extremely curious to what comes up in the app when I get to Sam Ngao. And it might be a good way to meet people to have dinner with in the future when I go to other places for the weekend. We’ll see.
I’m feeling drawn to write a book based on my blog. I don’t know how to do this. I don’t know if I need to get my blog out to more people first or if I just write the book. I don’t know how to go about getting a book published. Maybe it’s just a matter of advertising on my blog and getting it out to more people to make money, but it feels more like a book to me than a money making blog. If any of you out there have ideas of how to make this happen, please let me know. You can email me at rrainefiore@gmail.com. I might try putting hashtags in my old blogs so they can be found easier by people I don’t know that may be interested in reading. If you haven’t subscribed to my blog, but are following it regularly, please do so as I assume the number of followers I have will be useful in marketing to a publisher. If you are not interested in subscribing to my blog, that’s fine too. I don’t want to pressure anyone. I know how annoying it can be to receive emails you don’t want. I may try advertising on my blog too. If I do and you find it takes away from the blog, let me know as I’m still figuring all this blog stuff out. I don’t mind advertising that’s off to the side, but if it highjacks my blog or gets in the way of readers enjoying my blogs, then it’s not worth it.
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3 headed elephant statueSnow IceThis penguin made my snow ice, I thinkI think he likes me
Yesterday I left Singapore and flew to Bangkok and then to Chaing Mai.
The Singapore airport is amazing. There is art everywhere. There are at least 2 gardens in each terminal. It’s easy to get around. They have reclining chairs in case you want to relax. They have lounges, tv rooms, a pool, and a movie theater. . I heard they had free massage chairs, but I didn’t find them. One of the gardens was a butterfly garden. I went early just to see the butterfly garden.
Bangkok airport has no gardens.
The strange food story of the day…..Mochi. I like the gummy mochi candy you can get in the US at yogurt places. I love mochi balls (ice cream wrapped in mochi). I saw this mochi dessert on the airplane menu each time I flew. Then a video of it appeared on facebook on someone’s page as clear cake (it resembles cake in no way at all). So, it was time to try it. It is a clear tasteless jelly. Then you pour a brown uneventful syrup on it and top it with crushed nuts. It was good enough that I ate it all, but there is no reason you should ever pay money to eat this.
I got to my hotel in Chaing Mai, only it wasn’t a hotel, but an apartment complex. The guards had no idea what to do with me. I had no idea where to go. I called the number on my reservation, but it said “this number is not available right now”. I sat in the guard’s office for a while trying to figure out what to do when someone called me. He said his wife emailed me (I didn’t receive an email). The key was at the guard’s shack. So, it appears I rented a 2 bedroom apartment. I’d actually rather have a hotel, but it is a real nice apartment. There’s air conditioning which I won’t see for 5 months, a gym and a pool. The location seems good – near a mall, plenty of restaurants, and massage places. I ate at a restaurant that only serves made to order salads. That made me feel a little better. Then a massage. I was going to do a massage and a body scrub, but if I ordered two services, they would tack on another 50 baht in addition to the regular cost of the two services. This marketing approach is backwards and didn’t work. I gave up on the body scrub.
Today I signed up for private Thai language lessons for tomorrow and Saturday, 3 hours each. I’m not sure if my brain can handle 3 hours each day, but any new Thai I can learn will be helpful. All of the classes I looked up on the internet last night were longer – weeks or more so that is why I did the private lessons.
I went to the hospital. I had to do the health certificate again since the one I did in February is now outdated. This is for my work permit. The first hospital I went to was a mass of people and no English anywhere. I couldn’t tell if I was in the emergency room, the general hospital or what. There were many windows and steps to go through, but I couldn’t figure out where to start. I knew there was a more foreigner friendly hospital somewhere so I found it on google maps and went there instead. Within 30 seconds of being there, I was pointed in the right direction. Then began the game of move Rraine from seat to seat to room to seat to room. Overall, it didn’t take very long. They actually took blood which was more than the last place I had this done did.
I had to wait 2 hours for my tests to come back to get my certification. So I went and got lunch. There was a mall with a pizza hut and another pizza place. I opted for the other pizza place. My pizza looked and tasted suspiciously like pizza hut though. I was able to find the phone store and get my internet issues resolved (in theory – haven’t tried it out yet). I got my certification. I didn’t look at it because it was in a sealed envelope. I assume I’m healthy enough to work in Thailand. The blood test was for syphilis. I think you have to have sex to get that so I should be good to go.
While I was waiting for the certification, I got a message from the owner of the condo. He wanted to know if I could move to the room I actually rented today. Huh? With all that confusion yesterday, this isn’t even the right room. Ok, not a big deal I guess. I told him what time I’d be back and he said he’d have the maid change keys with me. This didn’t go so smoothly either. The new room hadn’t been cleaned. It was a mess and had no clean towels or sheets. I went to the pool hoping the problem would solve itself. A lot of messaging back and forth and now someone is cleaning my new room.
Thoughts of the day though: This morning when everything went so smoothly with the language lessons, hospital and phone store (the three main things I needed to do today), I felt good and thought I might accomplish everything today . I wanted to finish blogs, do some engineering work and finish lesson plans too. Ha – too ambitious. Then the dirty room dashed all of that. Now I’m cranky and grumpy and have a bit of a poor me thing going on. Such a little thing. So, I know this is no big deal, but the old nervous system pattern is getting triggered that makes me feel bad when things are out of my control and not going the way I want. It’s not panic, but a dulled down version of panic. The new learning of the day is I’ve never been a person to panic. That’s rarely, if ever, a reaction I have. I realize that in the past I couldn’t actually panic because then there’d be no control over the situation I already have no control over. I can keep from panicking, but I can’t seem to let the dulled down reaction go either. Of course, the bigger issue is that I don’t actually have control over anything and I’m in the process of letting the ego’s control go and learning to go with the flow of life. Another tiny layer of the onion can now fall away as I see the dulled down panic as a control defense.
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One of the airport gardensMore airport gardensAt the airport – yay!
Mochi Series – Picture 1 – packaged for airplaneMochi Series – Picture 2 – Add the syrupMochi Series – Picture 3 – Add the nutsMochi Series – Picture 4 – EatI have no idea – just found it at a coffee shop
My last day in Singapore. I didn’t get up early enough to go exploring before it got too hot. It was overcast so that helped. I went to the botanic gardens. So, if you don’t want to see way too many pictures of plants, then today’s blog is not for you. It was hot, but not unbearable until about 2:00pm. I only saw about half the gardens. There was so much more I wanted to see, but the heat chased me out. I loved the ginger garden. So many plants I didn’t realize were ginger or related to ginger. Banana trees are related to ginger. Who knew? I also loved the Evolution Garden. It started out as just rock and water like when the earth was born and transformed as you walked through it as the plants on Earth would have transformed. They even went to the detail to have dinosaur tracks on the path during that time period and animal tracks during a later period. I was quite impressed with the gardens.
I went a shopping center in the Orchard Road area. It was one that Pat recommended. It was where she found that perfume the cheapest. It had a very similar feel to a Thai mall. It was huge and I gave up on it pretty quickly.
Went out to dinner with Judy, Andy and Ivan.
Here are a bunch of plant photos. Go.
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Giant Palm Leaves
This must be fabulous when the trees are blooming
Iconic perfect lake complete with swan
This came from the tree in the next photoThe flowers and nuts come from the bottom, not the top of the treeA ginger
artist idea of the first trees on the planet
Dinosaur tracks
You can eat a burger at FatBoys and then get the fat frozen off upstairs
First order of business of the day was to check out the East Shore Park. It looks like a long boardwalk along the beach. I got a cab down there and it let me off at one end where there were a bunch of restaurants and shops. It’s Monday so most of the shops and restaurants were closed. It looked like a ghost town. There were no cars in the parking lot. I did find a place to have breakfast. To my surprise, my french toast had peanut butter in it. Unnecessary.
I walked around the park for awhile. It doesn’t seem like a tranquil island beach when you look out to the water and see nothing but a solid mass of cargo ships. The park overdid itself like I imagine all the parks in Singapore do. It had benches, exercise equipment, bbq grills, separate walking and biking paths along with a lot of other amenities. It was spotless clean too. I did walk by an area of tents, boats and roll away garbage bins. Not sure what that was all about. I’d have thought it was homeless if it wasn’t for the fact that the garbage bins outnumbered the tents.
It was getting too hot for humans to survive outside. So, I decided to do the shopping I needed to get done. Oh, crap, how do I get anywhere? I’m at the ghost town beach and the only taxi is the one that let me off hours ago. I actually did see a few taxis, but they all went by me. I ended up going through a highway underpass to another part of town which was half a ghost town and getting a taxi there.
Orchard Road is the big shopping area, but it’s very high end and probably very expensive. Judy had suggested that I got to Mustafa’s. It’s cheaper and it’s a madhouse that needs to be experienced. It is one store that is 5 or 6 levels tall and has almost everything ever made in it. The isles are too small for two people to be in them at once and there are already 4 people in every isle. There is a small order to things such as all the cosmetics are on one floor, but if you want perfume, it’s in 6 different places on that floor. I was looking for perfume that Pat wanted me to pick up. I also wanted to buy some cosmetics for myself. Everything in Thailand has whitening agents in it because they think light skin is pretty. I’m now darker than most Thais and am happy to pale naturally over time without whiteners. I also wanted to get a gift for Judy for letting me stay at her place. After wandering the first floor, I decided I was up for the challenge of the other 5 floors. It was like a maze – just when you thought you got to the end of the store, there was another room on that level. After 2 hours I gave up on tackling the whole store. It was not possible and people are so rude and pushy, I couldn’t take it anymore.
Last night when Judy asked what I was going to do today, I told her I wanted to see Henderson Waves. She hadn’t seen it, looked it up and wanted to go so we decided to do it after she got home from school. From what I had seen on line, it looked like an undulating bridge, but I couldn’t figure out how you would drive or walk on it. Andy decided to join us. It was a foot bridge between two really big parks. It is the highest bridge in Singapore. The wave part is off the side of the walking part. It is stunningly beautiful with great views off either side. It is a serious piece of art, in my opinion. Bravo. We stayed up there for quite awhile taking pictures.
After Henderson Waves, we took the train to Sentosa. Sentosa is a landfill island, meaning, the island was made from the extra dirt of other construction projects over the years. It has a huge park, Universal Studios, beaches and who knows what other wonderful things. It was almost dark when we got there. We went to the shore and I put some of Scott’s ashes in the water! So, now he’s in Singapore too.
Off to dinner and then Judy’s neighborhood bar. She introduced me to a guy named Ian who works with or runs or owns a company that teaches English for hospitality industry workers. She was hoping he might have some future work for me. He was with family that was visiting and was not the least bit interested in talking to me. Oh well, it was worth a try to make a new connection.
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Facinating – poles for laundry built into building
I spent most of the day near the Gardens by the Bay and the Marina Bay Sands. The Gardens by the Bay is a big garden area with big art and sprawling gardens. They have these huge metal and plant trees called the Super Trees. You can go up on a floating walkway up in the canopy of the trees. Near the Gardens by the Bay is the Marina Bay Sands which is a huge hotel, casino, and shopping mall. I met a few of the people over there to go to the Art Science Museum.
The Art Science Museum is an amazing concept. It’s dedicated to the mix of art and science. One of the exhibits they had was on gemstones. The other was an exhibit of interactive light art. The first exhibit was a room with a “painting” on the wall. It was flowers that grew, bloomed, and then the petals blew away. Butterflies also came out of the flowers. Then as the painting moved, the parts that moved off the painting became blurry and went up the walls, ceiling and floor consuming the entire room. There’s a short video of the “painting”. There were rooms where kids could draw things and what they drew then became part of a movie on the screen behind them. One was an ocean scene with fish swimming around. The fish were all the drawings kids had made. Another was a table and things were projected onto the table – gnomes, rain, flowers, butterflies, ladders, etc. If the gnomes were on the table and you put your hand down, they interacted with your hand by jumping over it, going around it or one time they set up a ladder and crawled up Amie’s arm. You could catch the rain in your hand and divert it somewhere else on the table. It seemed like there were an endless number of interactions. Sorry, no video of this one. There were some other exhibits, but the final one was a room you walked through with hundreds, maybe thousands of lights. They moved to the music, change colors, and moved through the room. It was supposed to mimic the way particles and light behave in space. I could have stayed in here for ever. I posted three way too short videos for this. It reminded me of the Cubitron at Burning Man a few years ago, but way better.
Amie and I hung out the rest of the afternoon. We walked around the gardens as it was getting dark. I found the floating baby statue. It’s called Planet. Not sure why. It was too dark to get a good photo or I’m just bad at night photos. Then we went up to the Marina Bay Sands at night. You can pay to go to the observation deck or you can go to the lounge and have a drink (with the price of drinks here, it’s about the same). The Marina Bay Sands has the largest infinity pool in the world (or the longest or the highest or something like that). I got a really bad photo of it, but you get the idea. Of course, people not staying in the hotel can’t get very near the pool. You can only marvel at it from afar. The rooms run about $600 a night and up. The view of the city is amazing from the top (56 floors?).
Out in front of the mall that is attached to the hotel they do a water and light show every night. After drinks we went down to watch it. They spray a thin wall of water and then project a video and lasers on to it. It’s all set to music too. In general, I didn’t find the show to be too exciting, but the concept of projecting video onto water was brilliant. I added a short video of that too.
I think I’m in love with Singapore.
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Random Footbridge
Largest Infinity Pool in the World
Super TreesMarina Bay Sands LobbyLight and Water Show
It’s official, I am too old for staying in hostels. The top bunk was too much. I didn’t hurt myself, but it made me quite grumpy. Then I have to go upstairs to go to the bathroom. My suitcase is in a locker so I have to figure out what I need and throw it up to the top bunk and if I forget something go through the whole locker process again. I know first world problems. Still, I got in around 3:00 and it was a room full of snoring men. I put my ear plugs in, but it wasn’t enough. The sound resistant walls were useless. They were air condition resistant walls though. So, even though the air conditioning was on, it didn’t reach me. Someone packed up all their stuff and left at 4:00am. This involved a ridiculous amount of in and outs and my bed is right next to the door. Then other people got up at 6:00am and more at 8:00am. So, I barely slept. Last night, one of my new friends offered that I could stay with her in the future. I emailed her. The future starts tonight. I went looking for the breakfast that comes with my room and didn’t find that so I promptly checked out and caught a cab to Judy’s. Now I have a queen sized bed and bathroom to myself with air condition that works.
Another travel day. I left Bali way too early. I told my hotel when my flight was and they called a taxi for me. I basically went an hour too early. Oh well, time enough to get some food.
When I decided to go to Singapore, it was just me. Two of my friends told me they knew someone there and put me in touch with these people. They both gave me pointers on what part of town to stay in and said they’d love to hang out in the evenings. Yay! New Friends!
Singapore is so expensive. I couldn’t find a hotel under $100 a night. Hostels ran $28+ per night. I found a hostel that said they had sound resistant walls and looked all futuristic and high tech so I decided to book there. I arrived and the place was so hot. The place has air conditioning, but none of it was on. By the time I had settled in and changed clothes, I was sweating so bad that outside seemed like a cooler option. The beds don’t look all futuristic, but they still look pretty cool. Unfortunately, I got a top bunk. Hope I don’t kill myself in the middle of the night.
So far, I like Singapore. It is a very clean and safe city. There are trees and gardens everywhere. The streets aren’t crazy like all the other places I’ve been lately. They drive like civilized people and stay within their own lane and follow basic traffic rules. Most large cities I’ve been in have an aggressive feeling to them and I figured it was just the hustle and bustle of a big city. Singapore has hustle and bustle, but without the aggressive feeling. Also, all the buildings are unique and have quite a bit of an artistic quality to them.
I headed out to find my way to dinner. One of my new friends set up a dinner with me, his boyfriend, a woman he works with and two other people that were visiting Singapore. We started off with dinner at an Indian restaurant and then went and checked out some of the Singapore night life. Everyone was wonderful and so funny. I had a great night. I’m so glad I decided to come here. Thanks Erin for introducing me to my new friend!
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Leaving BaliArriving in SingaporeMy very expensive bedNew fun friends
Nothing too exciting happened yesterday. We went to a very expensive restaurant for dinner. Just riding around, I think I enjoy the feel of Seminyak better than Ubud. Not sure what it is, but an energetic feel. Or maybe less concentration of people. Still a lot of tourists either way. Maybe it’s just the beaches.
Today we went to see Tanah Lot which is an island temple. It was beautiful, but you can’t go across to the temple. But with the waves crashing on the rocks, it makes for some wonderful pictures. After that we spent some time on the beach and fun beach bar after. It reminded me a lot of beach bars in Florida. Overall, the day was nice, but I am very ready to move on to Singapore tomorrow.
After breakfast and some pool time, my friend arrived at the hotel. We changed rooms in the hotel. We went to Seminyak beach which is a busier beach than the one the hotel is near. It still wasn’t the crowded mess I had heard of. The streets in Seminyak were crowded with traffic and lined with stores, but it had a nice feel to it, I thought. We went in search of a place that would do henna tattoos, but failed on that hunt. Better hunting tomorrow. They do the bean bag beach bars here too, but there’s a lot more of them. I got some pictures of them after they had set up for the sunset crowd. I didn’t get any pictures of them at sunset, but it was nice to just sit in bean bags and watch the waves come in. We also bought a couple of movies to take back to the hotel. I was surprised that Allegiant was already out. But when we went to buy it, they said it might not be good quality. Aha, it’s an illegal copy. We got it anyway. It was ok quality.
I’m feeling a combination of opposites. I’m tired of people. I’m tired of being alone. I don’t want to go back to work, but I’m missing the lack of routine. I’m tired of doing. I’m tired of sitting still. I feel out of place. I don’t like heat. I don’t like heat – oh wait, no opposite there. I feel like I should decide what I’m going to do with my life after teaching. But why do I have to decide that now? How is making a decision now living in the flow of life? I’m trying to live now and the future keeps hopping into my thoughts. When it does, it brings anxiety and “should” and exhaustion. Overall, I spend an enormous amount more of my time living now, but the future still has a bit of a hold on me. And, now that I am so much more aware, I can feel what living for the future does to a body so much stronger. So, I just watch it when it happens and note how it makes me feel and question who is watching. I think this is all part of a bigger shift trying to happen.
I found it easier when I was watching the sunset yesterday to just melt into oneness and now than I did tonight. I think it’s harder for me when I’m with other people. I still have thoughts that tell me I have to be a certain way, have conversations, do things, be witty, be nice, behave like all the other people, etc.