Didn’t Miss Much

Nothing too exciting happened yesterday.  We went to a very expensive restaurant for dinner.  Just riding around, I think I enjoy the feel of Seminyak better than Ubud.  Not sure what it is, but an energetic feel.  Or maybe less concentration of people.  Still a lot of tourists either way.  Maybe it’s just the beaches.

Today we went to see Tanah Lot which is an island temple.  It was beautiful, but you can’t go across to the temple.  But with the waves crashing on the rocks, it makes for some wonderful pictures. After that we spent some time on the beach and fun beach bar after.  It reminded me a lot of beach bars in Florida.  Overall, the day was nice, but I am very ready to move on to Singapore tomorrow.

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More Beach

After breakfast and some pool time, my friend arrived at the hotel.  We changed rooms in the hotel.  We went to Seminyak beach which is a busier beach than the one the hotel is near.  It still wasn’t the crowded mess I had heard of.  The streets in Seminyak were crowded with traffic and lined with stores, but it had a nice feel to it, I thought.  We went in search of a place that would do henna tattoos, but failed on that hunt.  Better hunting tomorrow.  They do the bean bag beach bars here too, but there’s a lot more of them.  I got some pictures of them after they had set up for the sunset crowd.  I didn’t get any pictures of them at sunset, but it was nice to just sit in bean bags and watch the waves come in.  We also bought a couple of movies to take back to the hotel.  I was surprised that Allegiant was already out.  But when we went to buy it, they said it might not be good quality.  Aha, it’s an illegal copy.  We got it anyway.  It was ok quality.

I’m feeling a combination of opposites.  I’m tired of people.  I’m tired of being alone.  I don’t want to go back to work, but I’m missing the lack of routine.  I’m tired of doing.  I’m tired of sitting still.   I feel out of place.  I don’t like heat.  I don’t like heat – oh wait, no opposite there.  I feel like I should decide what I’m going to do with my life after teaching.  But why do I have to decide that now?  How is making a decision now living in the flow of life?  I’m trying to live now and the future keeps hopping into my thoughts.  When it does, it brings anxiety and “should” and exhaustion.  Overall, I spend an enormous amount more of my time living now, but the future still has a bit of a hold on me.  And, now that I am so much more aware, I can feel what living for the future does to a body so much stronger.  So, I just watch it when it happens and note how it makes me feel and question who is watching.  I think this is all part of a bigger shift trying to happen.

I found it easier when I was watching the sunset yesterday to just melt into oneness and now than I did tonight.  I think it’s harder for me when I’m with other people.  I still have thoughts that tell me I have to be a certain way, have conversations, do things, be witty, be nice, behave like all the other people, etc.

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Beach

We got up this morning and found a place for breakfast.  It wasn’t very good.  Then we hung out at the Best Western pool until it was time to take Carly to the airport.  They had a really nice pool.

I drove the POS for the last time and was so excited to drop it off.  That might have been the highlight of the day.  I said goodbye to Carly and got a taxi to my new hotel near the beach.  I’ve heard that Kuta and Seminyak are both dirty and over touristy and that I wouldn’t enjoy them.  From my one night in Kuta, I didn’t find it to be that bad, but I didn’t find it worth going back to either.  My hotel in Seminyak is great.

It was a 13 minute walk to the beach.  The beach wasn’t crowded at all.  I got there in time for sunset. There was a beach bar that I hung out at for dinner and sunset.  I was hoping to meet some people and have a nice conversation, but that didn’t happen.  But as I sat there, I just felt how alone I was and then for a while, I didn’t even exist.  I could have stayed like that all night, but I had to go to the bathroom and that kinda broke the not existing experience.  Now, note, I said “alone”.  Did you read “lonely”?  Did you put a negative story on the word “alone”?  Did you assume that if I had met people and had a nice conversation that that would have been the “better” outcome?  “Alone” is not the same as “lonely”, not even close.  Now read it again without judgement, good or bad, or should be.  Do you get a different picture?

So, this is the right way to do a beach bar.  Put on some music, have a bunch of bean bags to sit on, put out some pretty lights, serve drinks and food.  This is as simple, brilliant and perfect as it gets.  Naysayers 0, Seminyak 1.

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Frat Bar

Today we had most of the day on Nusa Lembogan.  After breakfast, we walked down to a nearby beach and rented stand up paddle boards.   It was mostly kneel down paddle boards as the water was quite choppy and neither one of us has done this often.  Not too far off from us was the party flotilla.  There are a couple of barges with slides, kayaks, food and drink, banana boat rides, paragliding, snorkelling, etc.  I think it’s a brilliant idea.  Fill a barge with fun water activities and then boats bring tourists out for a day or afternoon of water fun.  I think between that, the fast boats coming in and out as well as a surf break not far from shore, all created the choppy water.  We still had fun hanging out on the boards, standing up when we got to a less choppy area.

Then lunch.  Some days it does seem the only thing there is to do is eat.  I feel like I’ve been eating a lot.  We spent the rest of the afternoon in the pool until it was time to get the 4:00pm fast boat back to Bali.

We are staying in Kuta tonight.  Kuta is supposed to be known for it’s night life.  I haven’t heard anything nice about Kuta, but it’s near the airport and it might be interesting to see this wild night life.  We had a room at the Best Western.  The website I often use to book hotels is Agoda.  They have been great with their ratings, hotel info and ease of booking.  They are a parasite to your email as they send way too many emails so don’t look them up unless you actually mean to book accommodations through them.  Agoda often gives you a mystery accommodation as an option when you are looking things up.  It’s usually 50-80% discounted, but you don’t know which one it is until you book it.  I kept seeing this and passing on it.  This time I looked at the map that showed possible places it could be.  Most of them were on the beach and I knew I couldn’t afford them.  A couple were not on the beach.  But it was one night so I rolled the dice and lost.  We didn’t get a place on the beach, however it was a very high end Best Western and worth way more than we paid.

In the hotel I saw something I haven’t seen since I left the US – wait for it – wait for it – a shower curtain.  What what?  Top sheets on the bed and shower curtains in the bathroom are lost concepts on SE Asia.  This is definitely a high end hotel.

We went to dinner on tourist restaurant row.  It had a Bubba Gump, so that tells you it’s a tourist town.  We found Mexican food that was pretty good.  Then we headed off to the bar district to catch some of this wild nightlife.  Either it’s really low tourist season or I’ve spent way too much time at parties and bars over the years.  This did not live up to the hype, not even close.  Most of the places were blaring music and handing out flyers and drink coupons, but you looked inside and they were empty.  One bar had workers dressed in Hawaiian shirts and grass skirts and had that frat party feeling.  This is the place the clean cut frat boys on vacation flock to.  We decided it would have the better people watching so we sat ourselves down at the bar and I drank our free drinks.  It was good people watching, but by 11:30pm the bar was still fairly empty with only 5 or 6 people on the dance floor and maybe 15 others scattered around a bar that could easily hold a couple hundred.  There may have been more people working there than customers.  Our bartender was funny and looked like the Balinese version of Bruno Mars.  There was a tiny Asian lady with an older white man.  She was dancing and giggling and just having a great time.  That entertained us for quite a time.  There were three rough looking ladies that were dressed in high heels, low cut tops and short skirts standing near the entrance looking so bored.  Our guess is they were working ladies.  Then there were stilt walkers and women in green afro wigs out front trying to convince people walking by that this was the place to be.  The rest of the people in the bar fit the frat boy / sorority girl description.  Just to finalize the whole frat bar experience, they bar tenders had whistles and they put an armband with the bar’s name on it on us.  And half the drinks came in fancy souvenir glasses or had dry ice in them making them all cool and fancy.

As we walked back to the hotel, it didn’t look like many of the other bars we passed were any busier.  Amateurs.

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Dance

More touristy stuff today.  We drove to see the Elephant Cave Temple.  There are no elephants there, but the entrance to the cave is supposed to look like and elephant.  Some pool time in the afternoon.  It’s so hot here.  I’m really not sure how people live here.  I’m not sure how I’m going to survive the summer in Thailand.  I don’t understand why people love the heat.  Maybe I need to move.

We did get to the dance show tonight.  It was interesting.  I love the music (small example video attached).  There are several types of traditional Balinese Dance.  The one we went to see was Legong.  I got some pictures and video of the dancing, but they came out awful.  The most fascinating part for me was how eye movements are part of the dance.  It’s creepy, but you can’t look away.  As with Thai dancing, the program tells you the story of the dance, but there’s no way you can tell that is the story.  The hands and feet are highly involved in the dance, like Thai.  The facial expressions and eye movements are quite unique to Balinese dancing though.  I found this video on you tube that is much better than mine.  It was taken at the same place so just pretend I took it.

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Monkey Monkey

Today we went to the Monkey Forest.  It was a park you had to pay to get in, but it had some temples and lots of monkeys.  Then in the afternoon we went to Jungle Fish.  This was a little outside of where we were staying so I had to drive the POS.  It was a resort in the jungle with a wonderful pool  and restaurant.  You have to pay 150,000 rupiah ($12) in food and drink and you get to hang out at the pool as long as you want.  Deal.  This evening we got massages and facials.  The people working at the spa were wonderful.  They kept trying to fix me up with one of the guys at the spa.  They were laughing and joking with each other.  It’s so delightful to see people loving each other’s company and the work they do.  I have found most Bali people to be genuine and when they smile it’s real.  In Thailand, the smile is not always real.  This is a nice change in that respect.  We were going to see a traditional dance show, but got there too late.

I finally found out when I have to be back at school.  I have two more weeks instead of one.  I decided to extend my stay in Bali by four days instead of sitting on a beach in Thailand or trying to go to another country.  Then I’m going to go to Singapore for a few days and back to Thailand.  I’ll probably go back to Chaing Mai in Thailand since it’s easy to get to by plane and fairly easy to get to Sam Ngao from there.  A 8-12 hour bus ride from Bangkok again sounds horrible.

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Carly

Today I took the morning off to do some engineering work.  I am grateful that I have some work I can do because I am spending quite a bit of money I don’t have.  I really need to work more than a half day, but that’s all I had for now.  I went to a place that was part coffee shop, co-work space, part restaurant and had a pool.  This is a brilliant concept to me.  I didn’t go in the pool.  By the time it got hot enough to not be able to stand it, I was done with the chunk of work I had.  So, I decided to go back to my hotel pool.  I did the pool then a massage and back to the pool.

My half sister, Carly arrive around dinner time.  I’ve never been traveling with her so this should be fun.  I was adopted and didn’t meet her until I was 34.  We’ve hung out a few times in Denver, but not a lot.  We went to dinner.  The place we went was beautiful.  It was huge and had little dining bungalows all spread out amongst gardens.  If this place was in the US, it would be a real expensive dinner place.  It was only slightly more expensive than any other place I’ve seen in Bali.  We went to an open mike night at a nearby bar to meet up with my friend, but it was so crowded that we couldn’t get a seat at the same table she was at.  We went upstairs instead.  This is where I fell in love.  I fell in love with the lamps they had hanging from the ceiling and over the bar.  Sorry, not the “in love” you were all hoping for.  They were made of fabric, metal and beads.  The light shown through the beads on the top.  Then strings of black with beads on them hung down below the lamp.  It looked as if the beads were tiny stars of lights floating below the lamps.  I took a picture.  It’s not great, but you’ll get the idea.

How do I become a lighting designer?  I think I would love that.

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Ubud

I stayed out too late last night.  The alarm was hard to take this morning.  But, I managed to get up and get breakfast.  I had signed up for a silver smithing class.  I’ve done a couple of college level courses in metal smithing and the guide book talked about Bali jewelry as if it is unique to this part of the world.  I thought it would be fun to learn some new skills and who doesn’t want some new jewelry?  The class wasn’t that great.  They barely let me do any of the work and the “teacher” kept trying to redesign my work.  The examples of types of things we could make didn’t look unique.  I’ve seen similar jewelry everywhere.  I decided to do a wire work piece since I never did wire work in other classes.  The class cost around $30 which is not a bad deal for a new ring and necklace even if I didn’t learn a life changing new skill.

I went to lunch after the class.  One of the things I like about Ubud is you can get a salad!  There are a lot of healthy restaurants here.  Ubud is like a bunch of people from Boulder created a town in Bali.  There are yoga places, vegetarian restaurants and art shops.  There are more guesthouses than tourists even though it’s a town of tourists and expats.  Most of the restaurants have communal tables that are low to the ground and you sit on cushions around them.  I love these.  I sat at one of those and met a couple expats that are just hanging out in Ubud.  How do people afford to just move to another country for a year or two without having to work?  Obviously, I’m doing it wrong.  Then it started to rain.  I didn’t have my computer or book so I didn’t want to hang out and wait for the rain to stop.  I debated how long to wait and gave up and just started walking in the downpour.  At some point, a nice man gave me his extra umbrella.  I saw a spa and gave him his umbrella back and ducked in for a foot massage.  Massages here are almost as cheap as in Thailand, but not quite as good.  This was a pretty good massage and a great way to wait out the rain.

My hotel here is awesome.  It has two pools, beautiful gardens and the people are nice.  After a little pool time, my friend picked me up and we went to an ashram a little outside of town for a yoga class that a friend of hers recommended.  I haven’t done yoga in years.  One cool thing that happened is when we were sitting the instructor had us lean forward and hold our toes.  My initial thought was, I can’t reach my toes.  My hamstrings are always to tight and after not working out for over 7 months, there’s no way.  I could reach my toes.  I have this feeling that losing so much muscle weight lately is actually like a reset.  I’m thinking that a lot of the stuff I’ve been holding in my muscles just left with the weight loss.  Now I can touch my toes.  I have no idea what I was holding in my hamstrings before, but it doesn’t matter, it’s gone.

The yoga class was in an open air pavilion.  At some point it got so hot that I thought I might die.  Then a minute later it rained and I felt a huge relief.  I hadn’t realized I was feeling the humidity build to the breaking point.  Once it started raining, the humidity in the pavilion went down to something more tolerable.  I’ve been thinking I might want to live in Bali next, but I’m not sure I like humidity enough to be able to live here.  It’s so hot and humid.  We had to ride motorbikes in the rain to dinner and back to Ubud.

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Tree Top

Today was another day to drive the POS.  Yay!  I got to drive on the HFS Road again too.  At least it wasn’t raining.  Twice I got stuck behind a slow truck that stopped on a steep hill.  The POS would not go up the hill once stopped.  1st gear was useless.  I had to slide back down the hill both times and start from a less steep place.  Traffic in Bali did not like this plan, but everyone survived.

Since it was a 5 minute detour, I decided to go back to the botanic gardens and do the Tree Top Adventure Park.  They have 7 different ropes type courses.  There are ziplines, hanging bridges, tight ropes, rope nets, tarzan type swinging ropes and a bunch of other challenges in each course.  This is a weird thing to do by yourself.  When you do good on a section of the course, there is no one to cheer you on or say good job.  But, I could go alone or not at all.  Still, it was quite interesting to do an activity that is highly based in “look at me!” by myself.

At some point, I am following a family of 8 and we hear a large rumbling sound like a large truck coming down the road.  There is no large truck.  I ask the guy in front of me what he thinks that is.  As soon as the words left my mouth I knew and he confirmed it was rain.  I saw picnickers off in the distance packing up and running for their cars.  My first thought was “oh no”.  Those of us standing on the platform just stared in disbelief as we watch a giant wall of water come booking it down the street and heading straight for the trees.  For an instant you feel so trapped.  We can’t get down.  We can’t run.  It’s going to rain.  Then it’s a downpour.  We have to keep going on the course and I can’t go fast because of the people in front of me.  The curious thing is this feeling of dread as the rain approached and the desire to hurry up and get out of the rain.  Even if I hurried, I’d still be soaked to the bone.  After about 5 minutes I was completely soaked and the dread had gone away as we all gave in to our fate.  We talked about how we use to run around in the rain on purpose when we were kids.  Why was it so awful now?  Once soaked, it became fun again.  About 20 minutes later I’m off the course.  This is a classic example of not loving what is.  As soon as we saw the rain coming we all complained and dreaded it.  The thought is, it shouldn’t rain when I’m dry.  In the long run it was fun, but only when I was fully soaked and no longer able to hold on to the belief that I should be dry.

The restaurant is packed with people trying to stay out of the rain.  A nice family lets me sit with them as there are no more open tables.  They were delightful and had me laughing all the way through lunch.  After lunch, the rain cleared up.  I decided to do one last course.

There was a big tarzan type rope on the last course that people had to swing from a platform into a rope net and grab the net with both hands.  People were getting crap beat out of them.  There was much screaming.  I decided this did not resemble fun and I would skip that course.  Two stations into the course I did decide to do was a smaller version of this Tarzan rope.  There was a worker at the bottom who tried to talk me through the process.  Then I became possessed by some little girly girl and heard things like “I don’t want to” come out of my mouth.  At first I had to look around to see who said that.  Nope, it was me.  It took me a good 5 minutes to work up the courage to jump.  Who is this little girl that is scared of rain and a tarzan rope.  I was harnessed into the rope so I’m not sure why it was so scary.  It did hurt to slam into the net at the other side.

I arrived in Ubud late in the day, exhausted from the stressful driving.  I went out with a friend that is living in Bali.  We went for dinner and then out to sample the nightlife.  You aren’t missing much if you haven’t seen the Ubud nightlife.

Sorry, no pictures today.

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