Day 1 of Class

For the next 4 weeks, I’ll be in class to get my TESOL certification.  The first week is all Thai culture and language.  Then anyone that is already a certified teacher will move on to their jobs and the rest of us will continue on with the TESOL class.

Today we got into vans and drove down to Hua Hin.  We are in houses near the school so we were given time to settle in.  There are 5 of us in our house and our house is really nice, except the beds – I’m not happy with the bed – I can feel all the springs.  I’m sure I’ll get use to it though.

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Our House Garden
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My Room
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Our House
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Row of washers at the end of the street

Then they took us to the local mall and showed us where our bank was and the cell phone store.  We had some time to shop and get lunch.  Then we went back to the school for  a talk about the area and logistics.  Everyone in my class and at Xploreasia is wonderful.  I am the oldest in the class by about 20 years.  It’s a bit odd, but not an issue.

That evening a few of us went to a night market near our house.  It had great food.  It was a beautiful place.  So much of Thailand feels run down or at the very least practical with no flare or artistic component to it.  Other than the temples, of course, which are detailed, colorful and glittering.  This market was beautiful with pretty lights, good food, and interesting shops.

Exhausted, I took a shower and went to bed early.  The days of showering once every 3 or 4 days a week are over.  It’s so hot here and it’s not their hot season.  Hope I adjust quickly.

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Minor Scam

Well, today was much much better than yesterday.  I got to the hotel around 1:00am, slept until 6:00am when my body decided it was time to get up.  Later in the morning I met up with 6 of the other teachers in my program and we headed out check out parts of Bangkok.  We went to the Chatuchak Weekend Market which boasts to be one of the world’s largest markets.  It was pretty big, hot and crowded.  But there was coconut ice cream so I was a happy little kid.

We wanted to go to the Grand Palace after and couldn’t figure how to get from the train station to the Grand Palace.  A couple of tuk tuk drivers showed us where it was on the map, but it was closed due to a holiday.  They suggested we do a boat tour instead and see a different temple.  Apparently this is a common scam where someone will tell you where you want to go is closed and then take your to their friend’s place to spend your money instead.  Still, the tuk tuk ride was fun.  The boat ride was fun and interesting, but longer than I would have liked.  It’s very interesting how some people live in big houses and next door is a tiny shack that looks like it might fall into the water at any moment.  And then next door to that is a glittering temple.  The temples are amazing, ornate and beautiful, even the smaller ones.  We ended up another Temple, Wat Pho, that has the largest reclining Buddha statue.  It was so large, I couldn’t get a picture of the whole statue.  There were many temples all within the grounds of Wat Pho, but unfortunately we didn’t have enough time to explore a lot.  Then we got into way overly priced tuk tuks to go back to the hotel.

We had a meeting with Xploreasia that evening to introduce everyone and get the general info on tomorrow and the weeks ahead.  By the time we were done with the meeting, I was ready for bed, but needed to eat.  Most of us went to a night market for dinner.  The food was great.  Then I went to bed early.

Overall, it was a great day and I feel so much better about my choice to move abroad.  I’ve always known it’s going to be great, but the fear of the unknown has been very big lately.  The fear has retreated quite a bit today!  Yay!

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Travel Days

20151226_000519_resized20151227_011845_resized20151225_111000_resized20151225_235400_resized20151225_110934_resizedBy the time I went to bed last night, I felt ready to go to Thailand.  Then I woke up several times panicking, thinking I’m bringing too much stuff.  But, it’s too late to rearrange stuff.  Both of my connections were close so I woke up worrying about that.  I purposfully booked one airline so I wouldn’t have issues with baggage and connections, but found out last night that I had two airlines.  My  first flight was at 7:30am so I got up super early and went to the airport.  There was issue at check in.  One of my bags was 4 pounds overweight.  I asked if I could take some stuff out and put in my carry on.  The lady kept telling me the bag was overweight and she couldn’t take it, but she wouldn’t give it back to me either.  Finally, I got the bag back and moved some stuff out.  It was still overweight and then I asked if I could just pay extra for it being overweight.  She freaked out and told me she was going to get fired and she couldn’t help me.  Again, she couldn’t take the bag and yet wouldn’t give it back to me.  She called over her managers.  Same story.  I kept asking if I could pay extra and they kept saying they couldn’t help me.  After 15 minutes of this round about conversation and a lot of crying on my part, I was able to get my bag back and had no choice but to pull more stuff out.  Not my carry on was almost too much for me to handle.  When I got to the gate, they announced that the flight was overbooked and some people would have to check their carry ons.  So I checked my overstuffed carry on for free all the way to Bangkok.  I may get to Bangkok and only have one change of clothes, but at this point, I don’t care.  I cried for half the flight.

I keep reminding myself that it’s all ok.  I’m safe and on my way.  But I just want life to go smoothly and when it doesn’t I just want to not get ruffled by it.  I guess I’m not there yet.   Cognitively, I get it that I create the world around me.  So, am I creating this drama?  Is this all because I’m scared so I’m secretly creating a frustrating world around me?  On the flight, I’m overcome with the huge feeling of “I don’t want to go”.  I can’t un-do this.  There is no un-do, no do-over, no going back.  I’ve processed this before, this feeling that I can’t un-do my childhood or being adopted or being born and I just want to un-do it all.  So, here it is again, but this time it’s about overpacking.  Seems trivial when you finally break it down to what’s going on.  So what if I over packed?

I got to LAX late and only had an hour to change planes.  This involved leaving the terminal, getting on a bus, going to a different terminal, going through ticketing again, and going through security again.  I made it just as the plane was boarding.  Whew.  Ok, things are still ok.

I arrived in Seoul late.  My plane was supposed to be taking off the same time we arrived at the gate.  I’m on a huge plane (row 64).  There’s no way I’m going to get off the plane in time.  I talked to the flight attendant.  She said they’d wait.  Huh?  I run through the airport.  I have to go through security again, I run some more.  I hear my name being called over the intercom, but I have no idea how to answer the call.  Then I see a man walking my way and he asks if I’m going to Bangkok.  I said yes and he started running ahead of me yelling Bangkok to the gate.  I can see the gate and it’s still open.  I get on the plane and take my seat.  It took me at least a half hour to catch my breath.  I didn’t know I needed to train for my flight.  As we are pulling out of the gate, they apologized for the delay.  It was due to connection problems.  Holy shit – they actually held the plane an hour for me.  And I didn’t have to deal with that heavy carry on.

I arrived in Bangkok and hour late.  My luggage was there.  My ride to the hotel was there.  I took a shower and went to bed at 1:00am.  I made it here.

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Kuma

Some of you may remember the beautiful Saint Bernard I had, Kuma.  I had her for 5 years and she was my light in a rough time in my life.  I still miss her so much.  I’ve often thought about getting another dog, but I just end up bawling because I don’t want another dog, I want her.  And of course, once I decided a ‘live in another country adventure’ was going to happen, getting a dog wasn’t an option.  I found her ashes when I was packing up the house.  I’ve been meaning to take them to a snowy place for years now, but just never did.  I don’t need to put it off more by putting them in storage.  So today, I took some to my boss’ house where she spent a lot of time.  The rest I took to Genessee Park and found a nice place to spread them out so she can lay in the snow one last time.  So grateful for life having brought this wonderful creature into my life.  And grateful to have finally given her a proper goodbye.

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Final Snow

What a day.  This was my last day snowboarding.  It wasn’t as awesome as I had hoped.  I went by myself, traffic was horrible, whine, complain.  Then the last run, I decided to take a tree run off a green that no one had taken.  Somewhere in the back of my head I could hear the voice of past mistakes saying “No! Bad idea!”.  But, how bad could it be?  What?  They’d pull my pass on my last day?  It was steep.  It was untracked.  It was wonderful.  It funneled into a deep hole with almost vertical sides and no logical way out.  Crap.  I decided to try to get out by going back the way I had come just before going into the deep hole forever.  It took a half hour of post holing up a near vertical slope with snow up to my mid thigh.  Thank god for the snowboard instead of skis.  I could use it to put my weight on so I wouldn’t sink as far and carve away some snow so I wouldn’t sink as far.  It took a half hour to get back to the green trail I so badly wanted off of earlier.  It was more cardio than I’ve seen in the past couple months combined.  I was delighted to take that green run all the way to the bottom and back to my car.  Did I learn my lesson?  Probably not.  I’m sure the lure of fresh untracked powder will call to me again and I’ll follow, but not for a while as there is no snow awaiting me in Thailand.  This picture isn’t from that run, but from the run before it that wasn’t quite as awesome or as terrible.

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It took all day, but everything but the furniture is moved out of the house and it’s all clean and ready for the new person to move in.  I thought I’d cry all day as I said goodbye to my house, but I didn’t.  I got back to Jay and Deana’s and they asked if I felt like a huge weight had been lifted, but I didn’t.  I just feel blah.

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Grilled Cheese Blizzard

I moved in with Jay and Deana until I leave for Thailand.  The house is rented and I wanted to move out as soon as possible so I’m not putting the final packing and cleaning off until the last minute.  I was going to do the final cleaning on Sunday, but I slept for 18 hours instead.  I went up to the house yesterday and did about half of it, but I also needed to help out at work too so I didn’t get all the house stuff done.  So, I got up early this morning to finish it up.  I awoke to a blizzard.  It took me over an hour to go to the post office and back.  By the time I got back, I decided that driving up to my house sounded too exhausting.  I would just work here and deal with it tomorrow.  Around lunch time, Deana suggested we have grilled cheese sandwiches and tomato soup.  Apparently I kept forgetting I had soup and then would buy more soup so I when I moved in here it was me and a lot of tomato soup.  The idea for grilled cheese and soup was so perfect that no other lunch was going to work.  But, there was no cheese.  As much as I didn’t want to go fight the bad roads to get cheese, I was coming to conclusion in my head that it was going to have to be done.  Just as I was coming to this conclusion, Jay demanded that I move the truck out of the driveway so he could take the motorcycle out.  Huh?  We got at least a foot of snow and it’s still snowing.  Did he say motorcycle?  Yes, yes he did.  He explained that it’s so fun in the snow and asked if I wanted to go too.  Then I remembered he has a motorcycle with a sidecar. Ah, yea, I want to go.

It was so much fun doing donuts in the middle of the road and riding through the snow to the store.  And then we had grilled cheese and soup and it was perfect.  The End.

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Fantastic

12310008_10153301610161094_6910257995001238676_o20151212_234140_resizedWhoa, What a roller coaster of a night.  Every year the Fantastic Hosts put on a holiday party that is the best party of the year.  Every year I hope that I will have a date to bring.  Every year, I’m dressing up and going solo.   This year I decided to take a date, a guy I’ve known for years.  We’ve dated a couple times, but it never worked out because he would stand me up or say he’d do something and then flake or just stop calling altogether.  However, whenever he does show up, he is delightful.  He’s so much fun and is really present with me in person.   I told him this party was a big deal for me.  He spent weeks not giving me a straight yes or no.  Then finally he confirmed and for some odd reason, I thought he might actually do what he said he would.  But, around 8:00 pm I find out that he’s still working and needs to work again first thing in the morning and therefore is going to the party.  He tried to call it off by text instead picking up the phone to call me.  Eventually we did talk on the phone.  I tried to be understanding.  I wouldn’t want to be working on a Saturday night only to have to go work again the next morning either.  At the end of it all, though, I just felt unimportant and disappointed.

So, I head off to the party with some friends and no date.  We get to party hours later than I had hoped.  I’m trying real hard to have a good time, but can’t quite shake the disappointment.  I decide to skip being sober for the night.  Just about the time I’m beginning to not care that my date, who has a history of disappearing, didn’t show and I was stupid enough to be the one to invite him, the party is over.  Well, at least there was an after party to go to because I was in no shape to be driving.  Plus, a lot of my friends will be there and it will be nice to spend some time with them.

At some point in the evening, I was propositioned by 3 different guy friends.  Where the hell have you guys been in the past few months, or past few years?  Why now?  I go to every event single and no one hits on me.  My actual date for the evening doesn’t want me, but everyone else does.  Is it because I’m leaving the country.  I didn’t suddenly become prettier or funnier or smarter.  It makes my head spin.

So, as you are reading this, you may be thinking that’s a crappy night (or you may be thinking, stop whining).  But wait – this is where it gets crappy.  It’s the wee hours of the night and I’m having trouble putting words together.  I can barely stand.  Then my heart is racing so fast I’m afraid I’ll have a heart attack.  All my muscles start to spasm.  Then the hallucinations start – fractals and swirling colors.  It was quite scary. However, a part of me was still aware and I could see that people were noticing, watching me and making sure I was ok.   I felt terrified and well taken care of all at the same time.

One of my friends, Tim, sat with me for hours and held me and poured love my way.  Waves of crying came, most of it was terror.  I’ve been locking down on the terror I feel over shutting down my life here to move away from everything that is familiar and comfortable.  With each wave I felt my heart relax a tiny bit.  As the sky became lighter outside, I started to feel like I was going to make it.  I was still quite messed up, but able to have a conversation.  What a strange way to bond and get to know someone better, but I’m grateful for this beautiful man who stuck it out with me until mid morning.

I slept for a few hours.  I’ve been up for about an hour now and huge shivers and chills are running through my body.  Even thought I’m so much better, it’s not over.  The alarm on my phone goes off to tell me I need to take the next Typhoid Fever pill.  I’m half way through the week long course of the vaccination.  Holy Shit! I have been trying to figure out what went so wrong.  Is this why?  Did the Typhoid Fever vaccination have a bad reaction with other things?  Stress + pent up fear + typhoid + alcohol + what ever I ate + my date canceling + etc = scary trip.   Scary night + wonderful people = bonding + gratitude.  So, maybe it was a fantastic night after all.

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Elk Traffic Jam

One of the most amazing things about living in Colorado, especially in the mountains, is the wildlife.  It is not uncommon to have traffic back up in Evergreen due to a herd of elk or deer trying to cross the road.  I have no issue being late because I had to wait to watch this happen.  It happened today and I just felt so grateful for getting to stop and watch them.  This is probably my last elk traffic jam before I leave.  I wonder if there will be monkey traffic jams in Thailand?

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